I often hear people say how hard their relationships are and how much work goes into them. For me, I feel the total and complete opposite. It seems like one of the only things I don’t have to work at is my relationship with my husband. I am grateful that my day job allows me to revel in not only the beauty of weddings, but also in the real and raw meaningfulness of marriage. I asked my husband to help me with a list of the best things about being married, and this is what we came up with. I hope that perhaps keeping these things in mind will help you find your perfect match or to delve deeper with your significant other.
We are each others’ safe zones.
When the world, and the children, have been against me all day, my husband is the one person who is guaranteed to be there for me. He is absolutely always in my corner. That is not to say that we never bicker-seriously, deciding what’s for dinner every night is the most annoying thing-but at the end of the day, he is my go-to. I can tell him anything. No comment I make or question I ask is too crazy for him to listen to with an open mind.
We are diet buddies.
Speaking of dinnertime decisions, we usually manage to talk each other out of healthier choices. So when I need to lose a couple of pounds, he usually does, too. It’s nice to have someone to keep you accountable to your goals. This not only applies to diets, but having someone there to motivate you to submit a résumé for a job that seems a bit out of reach or run just a little farther is a good thing in helping you attain your personal goals. Our lives are on a path together; what is good for one of us is good for the other-be it losing weight or getting better jobs.
We inspect the other’s feet.
If there is a toenail issue in question or strange scaly spots that need addressed, there is no hesitation when it comes to sticking our feet in the other’s face for inspection. Just the fact that he can stand to be around me with the smell of my feet is true love, let alone his willingness to inspect potential ingrown toenails. Having someone who loves your grossest, smelliest self is vital for the long term. No, you should never leave the bathroom door open, but being able to talk about bodily things is important for the long haul.
We know it’s forever.
Just knowing that this is something that doesn’t end is comforting. We never let the possibility of an end exist. It’s nice to know that there will always be someone willing to go see a Jason Isbell concert with me. There will always be someone there to lean on at awkward family reunions and work parties. And with our shared love of people watching, there is always going to be a fun date to be had, even if we just park at the gas station and eat a hot dog.
Our marriage is at the top of both our priority lists and always gets first dibs on attention. I think this is one of the main reason things run so smoothly for us: There is constant conversation, no secrets and always someone to watch TV with. Whether you already have your perfect person, keeping it open, honest and finding excitement in the everyday is sure to keep your relationship going strong.
Casey Davis is the founder of The Tennessee Bride, a wedding resource celebrating homemade marriages. For more inspiration, visit The Tennessee Bride on their blog, Instagram and Facebook. The opinions expressed in this column belong solely to the author, not Nooga.com or its employees.